I have been taking time to work on myself. To better myself. To be myself. Something so incredibly simple, but yet so complex. Where do you start? Self worth. You need to know what YOU are worth. And chances are, you are worth A LOT more than you give yourself credit for.

We all have our flaws. Gosh i know i definitely do. I think being a mother accentuates more flaws than you ever thought you could have. You doubt yourself, you think negatively more than you usually would, you fear failure, you start criticizing yourself and you try to please others without even thinking about what you want and need. We as woman and mothers need to understand how much we are actually worth. The secret to happiness in my opinion starts with you.

We need to be authentic. Really and truly authentic. (an example of one amazingly authentic woman is obviously my spirit animal Mrs.Cass Furgeson!) Too many people fake authenticity. They fake being real and fake their own little social media persona. Why do we do this? It boils down to the lack of self worth we have and how insecure we have become. And for what? Likes, comments and a momentary feeling of acceptance?

What we as woman love to do is compare. Oh boy this can get you down! Just remember, most of the time you are comparing your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20. It’s not fair on yourself and definitely not good for your soul. You run the race at your own pace, you are different and you are absolutely unique. Isn’t that something to be proud of? Why would you want to be anyone other than you? We need to work on our souls to become the best version of ourselves we can be. Be the reason people smile, be the change you want to see in your life! We are all absolutely brilliant in our own ways.

Your self worth is not based on someone else’s opinion of you. You are not everyone’s cup of tea and that is TOTALLY okay! The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will simply not like you. BUT the world is also filled with people who love your fiercely. The ones who love you – those are your people. They are your soul food.

I believe happiness is key to being a better mom. Do what you have to do to make yourself happy. Take the day, take a drive, figure out how you can achieve ultimate happiness within yourself. This does not mean you have to be happy and friggin cheery every day. No. This means just to accept and make peace with who you are and who you want to be without relying on people to do that for you. Take good care of yourself, because as a mom you have little ones relying on you. We are raising the future. We are raising husbands, fathers, mothers and wives. We are raising good people. We are raising the change that needs to happen in the world and we need to be so immensely happy with ourselves to be the best we can be and to raise our kids the best we can.

So forgive yourself for every mistake you have made, fix what can be fixed, love yourself and love your kids even more. Lose your shit from time to time, cause we aren’t really moms if we haven’t gone bat-shit-crazy some time or another. The key is just to to get up, fix your crown and carry on with the day like the superhero-rockstar mom that you are.

DON’T EVER DOUBT YOUR WORTH. YOU ARE WORTH IT. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOU ARE AN AMAZING MOTHER. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. YOU ARE WORTHY.

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